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31-12-2011 What a breathe of fresh air and sanity...Have you ever watched the YT channel Feminist Frequency? Curious to know what you make of it. |
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31-12-2011
No, I wouldn't waste time on feminist channels.Ive more interesting things to research. I get equally tired of women who blame everything on men and of men claiming women are the root of all evil. As I said, apart from the cases when women need to unite to demand equal pay and such, I see no point in getting together to discuss how women are portrayed in movies or magazines, or who said what on TV. Seems to be the way of escaping personal responsibility: "if I'm not respected, if men only see a sexual object in me, that's because men are chauvinistic pigs, not that theres something in my behavior". Funny how men can be exactly the same. They experience a few traumatic events with women, and instead of trying to find a reason for why that happenned, they just take a broad brush and paint all women with it. Certainly easier, but not wise. As they say in a joke here, if you get married for the 3rd time and ur 3rd husband turns out to be an alcoholic, maybe the problem is not in the husband. (meaning that if choosing such guys is a pattern for someone, it's this pattern thats the problem) |
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01-01-2012 Yes, i briefly subscribed to that channel out of curiousity to see what she had to say. And that's what I found she was doing, saying men were depicting women on tv and in the movies in such and such a way and why don't they depict them this way and never really defining what this ideal woman is supposed to be...I left some comments on her video about True Blood, polite and actually supportive of some of the critiques she made (I don't really like the show) and she didn't even post them (she posts comments only after apporoving them...understandable as I'm sure she gets some pretty hateful ones)..anyway, I unsubscribed.I had a pretty emotionally abusive mother, and had a pattern of getting involved with women who were also abusive in that fashion. I realized I had to change me, get to the root of how I had been affected by my childhood and change what I was "attracted" to and what I was allowing to take place. Almost there, I think. |
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26-01-2012 Oh well, I don't think we're gonna agree on feminism! But surely you realize that feminism has a lot to do with antinatalism? |
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26-01-2012
In a way that allows women not to be reduced to the baby-making machines? I have told in the article that I appreciate the freedoms and equality that feminism provided. Id think in a way anything that liberates peoples minds from prejudices opens the door to antinatalism. Atheism, for example. I express a lot of views on different topics, so the possibility of disagreement with at least some of them is pretty high ;) |
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26-01-2012 No, I'm not talking about such lofty concepts about freedom or equality. I'm talking about sexuality. I'm talking about the association of sex with PIV, and the fact that women are under obligation to provide PIV for men, which leads to the fact that a clear half of pregnancies in the US are not wanted. |
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27-01-2012
I thought the lack of contraception was what lead to pregnancies Anyway, the topic of sex in marriage is quite complex. Bertrand Russell once wrote that "Marriage is for women the commonest mode of livelihood, and the total amount of undesired sex endured by women is probably greater in marriage than in prostitution" Well, today women are more independent financially, its just about time they gained more independence intellectually. When I was 17 I did feel obliged to have sex with my boyfriend practically whenever he wanted to. Now I couldn't believe I fell in love with such an insensitive man. Well, I got smarter since then.))) At first I thought, I don't see a huge connection between no PIV and less pregnancies. Because in most cases, all those women who got pregnant by chance, would still have decided to get pregnant by choice later in their lives. So it probably means nothing for population reduction. Then I remembered that there are couples already with kids who may not want more, but they will because of it. Actually, I never heard of PIV being discussed as such, outside of sexual relations in general. Id have to read more about it, curious. |
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27-01-2012 "I thought the lack of contraception was what lead to pregnancies"No... all forms of contraception fail, even sterilization. So that's not the only answer. "I think in most cases, all those women who got pregnant by chance, would still have decided to get pregnant later in their lives. So it probably means nothing for population reduction." Well yes, people will still want to have children. But PIV itself is a huge part of the problem. And ultimately near 100% of children are made by PIV. So the more we show PIV and pregnancies for what they are, the less children there'll be... |
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27-01-2012
I edited my previous post a bit. U replied quicker then I thought and typed))) As I said, interesting point. |
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27-01-2012 "Actually, I never heard of PIV being discussed as such, outside of sexual relations in general."I would recommend you a blog on the topic, but you already don't like feminism, so... |
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27-01-2012
I know how to google)) I've described in this post what particularly I dislike about feminism, not feminism per se. It became such a broad term these days that I feel it sometimes becomes a cover for misandry. I dislike any strong division by gender or creed or ethnicity where a certain group is villified and the other is victimized. Today, if women want to be treated as equals, they should take some responsibility for their own actions as well, not behave like children. And not so long ago I met a man who've been blaming women for exploiting men. Where does personal responsibility come in? Thats my concern about being overly into certain movements. |
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27-01-2012 "Where does personal responsibility come in? Thats my concern about being overly into certain movements."I guess that's the main difference between us then. When we're forced to live and deal with a corrupt system and a corrupt society, I see it primarily as an issue of institutions, not as a personal responsibility issue. I don't kick people for being on the street, or want to give them charity, I want to remake a society where people don't have to be on the street... I can't kick people for doing the right thing OR for doing the wrong thing, because they don't really have any choice. You either submit and live within the corruption, or you rebel against it and "fail." If you disagree, well, I guess we'll have to agree to disagree. |
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27-01-2012
Individuum vs socium is a complex subject. The culture is shaped by people, then the culture shapes people. I think about this subject all the time. Conformity plays a huge role, but on the other hand, if peoples brains are like sponges, who is there to blame for that? In every culture the norms are different, but people conform to anything. Who owes us the perfect society? Whose obligation it is to build it if not our own? But then, who'll be building it - people, who'll accept anything? I guess the root cause is the critical thinking and independence that is not taught, for if those were the part of any woman's personality, she wouldn't have surrendered to any PIV when she didn't want it, despite societal pressure. But we're social animals, and a few of us find the guts to stand up for what they feel is right, we feel obliged to be like the majority. So I can not fully agree with those who simply say that people are brainwashed, or dumbed down. Whose dumbing them, aliens? Nope, just people. People exploit other people. And we condemn it. Rightfully so. But then it seems we're awaiting an army of supermen to descend from heaven and fix all our problems so we could just enjoy and consume and not make a single thinking effort. Feminism was started by persons, real people who realized that if they're being abused its their responsibility to speak up and resist it. Not whine about it, not simply blame, but demand. They had that personal responsibility needed to change the world. It comes from 'if not me, then who else'? |
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27-01-2012 "I guess the root cause is the critical thinking and independence that is not taught, for if those were the part of any woman's personality, she wouldn't have surrendered to any PIV when she didn't want it, despite societal pressure."Yes, precisely! |
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21-07-2012 This is why Ukranian girls rule: smart, sexy and rational |
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23-07-2012
In comparance to ..? I only know our girls, so I can't say what their distinctive features are. )) |
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25-07-2012 In comparison to all the other women of the world |
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26-07-2012
Poetically speaking, I guess. You have't been around the world yet, I think you told me)) Incidently, I've been informed that I actually am a feminist, in a sense that I believe men and women should have equal rights. That's true. It's just that feminism lately has gotten so ridiculous, or rather the case is such that radical feminism has been getting most of the publicity, with women showing up in evening gowns while having unshaven legs or obsessing over how women are portrayed in movies. No wonder people want to distance themselves from that. And the feminism movement that actually fought and got us our rights to work, stay single and not have children - this, of course, is a precious thing that we should be grateful for )) |
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19-09-2012 "I fail to see the relation between feminism and antinatalism."Natalism is predicated on the objectification of women (see: http://francoistremblay.wordpress.com/2012/09/16/what-is-natalism-really/ ). Feminism seeks to eliminate the objectification of women. QED. |
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